Good Morning Greatness,
So yesterday I was in the car going to pick up my daughter after I got off of work (my usual routine). I am listening to my music, loud because I like a good beat to get me through rush hour traffic when the words to a song, I had been listening to for years, hit me like a ton of bricks. I was listening to Fantasia’s first CD. When I say I love Fantasia that is an understatement. Her voice is so powerful and you can feel what she is singing not just hear it. It didn’t hurt that her production team killed it with the beats throughout the CD, and usually that’s what gets me, but not this time. This time I heard the words over the beats.
“I’m tryin to love ya but ya don’t act right”, “I ain’t gonna beg you no more, sick and tired of waiting don’t know what I’m waiting for, cuz you know you don’t treat me like you should”, but the one that suck out the most, “If you don’t want me than don’t talk to me. Go ahead and free yourself”.
She told the man that has been hurting her, using her, taking her for granted and SHOWING her that he could care less if their relationship worked she wasn’t even worth keeping it real with her to free himself. What? His actions showed you you didn’t matter to him and you are giving him the opportunity to free himself. Some thing is very wrong with this picture. I had to play the song over again. Mind you I have been listening to this CD for years. That song is one of my favorites. But for the first time yesterday I heard it differently and some questions came to my head.
- When did we begin to think it is okay to give up our power?
- Why is she waiting on him to free himself when clearly she’s the one hurting and living in bondage?
- What is it going to take for her to take her power back?
I sat in the car answering myself. I felt crazy but the reality of it is I was right there in those same feeling at some points in my life. I gave up my power to multiple men in hopes that they would see me and all I do and find me worthy of loving CORRECTLY. I fell victim to the “okie doke”, the “I love you, I only want you” all the while showing me that those were the biggest lies ever spoken by a man. I analyzed giving up my power over and over again to this person or that, relationship after relationship (boyfriend or just friend). After listening to the CD the whole way through for the millionth time I got out of the car heavy. It hurt to know that so many people out here have done exactly what I did and what she did in her songs. They gave up their power and left their destiny in someone else’s hands. In a way we committed suicide the real us died and the fake us replaced it.
I know now that this is not what God has for me and it is not what He has for you either. The devil wants you to release your power and allow his minions to stunt your growth. When we place our power in another human being and your worth takes a back seat and in our eyes being with them is worth the heartache the devil gets the glory not God. It seems easier to rock with the devil because what he puts us through seems less hurtful than what God wants us to do, at least in our minds. But like I was told yesterday “I dare you to try God and trust Him”. He can set you free in a way that no one will ever be able to place you back in bondage. He showed you your worth well before you made it to this earth, it was instilled in you and some where along the way dealing with people who had no idea how to handle you, you lost sight of your worth. He’s just waiting on you to see your worth again. Trust me beloved it is still there and to find it you have to do one thing.
Don’t wait for someone who has been hurting you to get tired of hurting you. YOU show people how to treat you with what you tolerate. Choose you! TAKE BACK YOUR POWER. Stop TOLERATING nonesense and take back your life. You were not created to be a door mat, a punching bag, a verbal pin cushion or anything else that will cause you to be misused. You are created for greatness and it is never to late to make up your mind, tell yourself “YES, I am WORTH IT”, because you are. I don’t care what you were told, what you have done or where you have been, there is no mess to big for our God.
You are perfectly imperfect and that is quite alright because God does his best work with mess. He has the ability to erase your past but you have to trust Him and the process because it will not happen over night. Take the steps and stop waiting on those hurting you to see your worth. You recognized your worth and PLEASE FREE YOURSELF!!!!!!
I love you Greatness,